Setting Boundaries Without Guilt

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You don’t have to push yourself beyond your own limits because of guilt. You have permission to say no and not feel guilty.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

Boundaries define your limits. You have the right to define your emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual limits!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

How do you know what your limits are? Think about:

  • What makes you uncomfortable?

  • What makes you feel unsafe?

  • What’s in violation of your values?

That’s where you define YOUR limits. This may feel hard as you may find your boundaries differ from family, community, or the way you were raised. I support your right to have your own boundaries.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

I often see resentment result when boundaries are continually violated. Resentment is a mix of anger & fear. We tend to experience resentment when we feel unappreciated or we think we’re being taken advantage of. You are NOT responsible for other peoples unrealistic expectations, emotions, thoughts, or behaviors.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

We experience guilt when we think we’ve committed an offense (usually against expectations or values). I propose you question if the guilt is coming from YOUR true values or OTHERS’ expectations & other’s guilt trips.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

Remember, you don’t have to push yourself beyond your own limits because of guilt. Resentment will usually manifest if we do.

Therapy and tacos for all,